What Is the Meaning of Primary Custodian?

by Beverly Bird
The primary custodian has the children most of the time.

The primary custodian has the children most of the time.

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When the word primary is used in connection with custody, it usually relates to physical custody – which parent your children will live with after your divorce. The primary parent or custodian has possession of the children the majority of the time, but different states use various terms for dealing with this legal concept.

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Determining Custody

If you live in New Jersey, the primary custodian is called the parent of primary residence. Illinois uses the term primary custodian or residential custodian. By any name, if you and your spouse can't reach a parenting plan on your own, the court will decide which of you should be the primary parent based on the best interests of the child. In some states, a statute will list factors that the judge must consider to determine who the most suitable custodial parent is.

Visitation Rights

When one parent has primary custody, it doesn't mean the other parent won't get to see his children. It simply means your children will probably not be dividing their time equally between your home and your ex's residence. Your visitation schedule with your children can be whatever you and your spouse agree on, or the court may fall back on a standard parenting schedule if you can't agree, such as every other weekend and one weekday evening.

Legal Custody

Legal custody is different from physical custody – it's the right of one or both parents to make important decisions relating to your children's upbringing. The primary custodial parent does not automatically have sole legal custody as well.