Cooperate with your spouse to draft a custody agreement that takes into account the best Interests of your child. Among the issues to consider are whether the agreement will require the child to switch schools or be forced to stop playing on sports teams or participate in other activities, as well as whether both parents will be granted equal parenting time.
Present the agreement, signed by both parties, to the judge. Depending on the age of the children, the judge may ask to speak with them regarding the agreement. This is more common with older teenagers rather than young children. However, Illinois has no law requiring a judge to take the wants of the child into account; therefore, it rarely happens unless there have been past issues of abuse or other issues of concern.
The judge will determine if the agreement meets the best interests of the child. To do so, the judge will look at how the agreement differs from the status quo, considering whether the child has to change schools, whether the child is involved in a great number of activities he will have to give up, and whether the agreement allows the child to see the noncustodial parent enough. If the agreement appears to be in the child's best interests, it will be approved.
Contested Divorce Cases
Attempt to come to an agreement with your spouse outside of court. When this fails, or if there have been allegations of abuse or child endangerment, both parents will need to appear in court.
Cooperate with the attorney who will likely be appointed by the judge to protect the rights of the children in this scenario. This attorney is called a Guardian ad Litem and will speak to the judge on behalf of the children during the divorce case.
Do not attempt to call and influence the Guardian ad Litem. The role of the Guardian ad Litem is to act on behalf of the children; attempts to influence this interaction may result in negative results with the judge.
Arrange for the Guardian ad Litem to speak and meet with your children regarding the divorce. The Guardian ad Litem will present his findings to the court after speaking with the children, parents and other caregivers or teachers. The Guardian ad Litem is also able to file petitions on behalf of the children should that be necessary.
The Guardian ad Litem will appear in court with both parents and the children, if he feels that is necessary, to tell the judge what he believes is in the best interest of the children. If his findings, and the preferences of the children, are very different from what the judge expected, the judge may ask to meet with the children as well.
Draft a custody agreement with your spouse in line with the recommendations of the Guardian ad Litem, if possible. If you and your spouse disagree, the judge may require a hearing on the matter of custody, which would allow you and the Guardian ad Litem to discuss custody in a formal setting.
After the hearing, the judge will make a decision regarding custody that will take into account all the evidence and the Guardian ad Litem's recommendations. A final custody decision will be handed down and the custody issue will be closed unless one of the parents decides to appeal.