How to Get Sole Custody When Your Ex Is an Alcoholic

By Elizabeth Rayne

Keeping a child out of harm's way is a parent's No. 1 priority. In cases of shared custody, the addictive behavior of one parent, including alcoholism, could be deemed detrimental enough to the child to award sole custody to the other parent. Further, while all states determine divorce and custody issues according to their own set of laws, the best interests of the child are paramount in custody and visitation decisions.

Custody Overview

When a parent has sole custody, she may have physical custody, legal custody, or both. Physical custody refers to where the child lives. Sole legal custody means that parent makes major decisions regarding the welfare of the child, including education, health care and religion. It is unusual for a court to award sole legal and physical custody to one parent. Generally, courts will only award sole custody when it is found to be in the best interests of the child, such as where a parent is unfit to care for the child.

Custody Determinations

In determining the custody arrangement, the court is primarily concerned with what is in the best interest of the child. To this end, the court will consider the home environments of each parent, as well as the ability of each parent to take care of the child, and the safety of the child. As a result, the court may consider alcohol abuse in making a custody determination, particularly if the addiction puts the child at risk when in the physical care of the alcoholic parent. At the hearing to determine custody, you may present evidence of the other parent's alcoholism to demonstrate that it is not in the best interest of the child for that parent to have custody, and also that alcoholism impairs the parent's judgment in making decisions for the child.

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Custody Modification

If a court order for custody is already in place, you may seek a custody modification to change the arrangement from joint to sole custody. Generally, you may request modification of a custody order if there has been a substantial change of circumstances that were unknown at the time the judge made the initial order. In other words, if the court already knew about the parent's alcoholism at the time of the original order, you may be prevented from modifying the custody arrangement if the circumstances have not worsened. In most states, you may initiate a custody modification by filing a petition with the same court that issued the original order. At the hearing, you may present evidence of the changes, and show why the alcoholic parent is unfit to have physical or legal custody.

Visitation and Support

In cases where a parent does not have legal or physical custody, he will likely be granted visitation. In this case, you may request that those visits be supervised if you are uncomfortable with the other parent being alone with your child. Often, courts will award supervised visitation temporarily, to allow a professional to observe the parent's interactions with the child to determine if it is safe to leave the child alone with the parent. Additionally, because custody and child support are two separate issues, an alcoholic parent may still be required to pay child support whether or not he has custody or visitation rights.

Providing Evidence

In both the initial custody determination hearing and any subsequent hearings to modify custody you must provide clear evidence of the other parent's alcoholic behavior. You may consider hiring a private investigator to gather evidence, or you may present evidence of past admissions into rehabilitative programs and subsequent relapses. Also, you may show driver and arrest records that may demonstrate a pattern of alcoholic behavior.

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Continuous Addiction & Child Custody

Habitual dependence on drugs or alcohol can call into question a person's ability to make good decisions, as well as the safety of his or her home environment. If the addicted individual is also a parent, the welfare of any child under that parent's supervision may be at risk. Although specific laws pertaining to substance abuse can vary between states, all custody decisions must be shown promote the best interests of the child. Knowing how evidence of continuous addiction may affect parental rights in your case will help remove some of the confusion in the custody process.

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A parent's substance abuse can have extremely negative consequences for children and family courts around the U.S. recognize this. Many states have a rebuttable presumption that it is not in a child's best interests to reside with an addicted parent. A rebuttable presumption is one in which an accused parent can rebut an assertion of substance abuse by explaining the addiction is in the past, does not affect the child or does not exist. The parent struggling with addiction must prove they can provide a safe home for the child and if they cannot, may be denied custody and visitation. If either you or your ex struggles with addiction, obtaining treatment is the first step toward establishing a healthier environment for your children.

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